Family is the core of our lives. Whether you are single, a part of a blended family, married with 5 kids or a single parent. Everything in our lives flows through our family. Family is important. If you grew up with a loving family where you felt the love, it made an impact on the way you see family. If that is not your testimony and there were issues along the way, that also had an impact on you. It is simply because family typically forms the core of our beliefs.
As a father and husband, my family is my legacy. I didn’t grow up with a father, so I didn’t see it done correctly, first hand and up close. In actuality, not many of my friends grew up with their fathers in their house. The enemy attacks the family because it is such a powerful force in our lives. When the father is absent, either physically or emotionally, it can present a lot of problems.
In Mark 3.27 it says,
“No man can enter into a strong man’s house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.”
In this verse it is saying you can’t rob a man’s house until you first tie up the man. That is the enemy’s intentions, to bind the strong man, so that he can’t fend for his family. Thanks be unto to God that breaks every chain.
As a man, I am learning, we have man roles in the home. We are the priest, prophet and king of our house, but to put it simply we are meant to lead. Our main job is to set the course and make sure everyone gets there safely. The bible instructs the man to love his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25) and instructs the fathers not to provoke their children to wrath (Ephesians 6:4). The bottom line is, whatever the family needs, it is our job to meet the need.
We lead. This is our team. We love and support our wives with words and actions. We love and discipline our children. We set a vision for our family and work as a team to get there. Obviously, all of these things are easier said than done but with God, it is very possible. It is similar to a point guard in basketball or a quarterback in football (yep, got to have sports references). They don’t do everything but they direct, lead and orchestrate. They make sure the team is playing to its strengths…whatever they may be.
I want to encourage every man to make sure they are at the helm of making your team (family) win. There is a need for a lead, in your family. A lot of my friends that didn’t grow up with their fathers, are leading their families because they know what the opposite looks like. Start a new legacy for your family. Invest in your family’s success. The return will be amazing!
BY COREY BOONE