Do you feel like you are failing as a parent? Do you feel like you really don’t know how to be a good parent? At some point everyone with a child has probably had these nagging questions in the back of their minds. Unfortunately, we don’t get a manual that tells us how to be a parent when we take our beautiful bundles of joy home from the hospital. Do you wish you had a simple solution to understand your child and for them to understand you? Well, I have put together the following three tips that can help you get on the right track!
Tip #1: Remember that God chose you to be the parent:
Being a parent is difficult and sometimes downright scary. As a society we face many injustices, pandemics, all kinds of crises and a general moral decline, raising a child can seem overwhelming. We need the kind of resilience and patience that only comes from a relationship with Christ.
Galatians 6:9 says,
“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”
Sometimes, the child who doesn’t listen, is constantly disobedient or has life dominating issues can take you to a dark place if you are not grounded in Christ. The enemy would like nothing more than to convince you that you can’t raise your children. God has called us to help them reach their divine destiny, and through Christ all things are possible…..including raising them to be good, successful people without you or them going crazy.
Tip #2: Join a Local Church
It is CRITICAL for parents to find a solid Bible-teaching church to attend on a regular basis. You will not only get the Word of God, but meet other parents and soon learn that you are not alone. Also bringing your child to church so they can learn the Word of God will help both you and the child. The church can partner with you to reinforce positive messages into your child’s life about who they are, who God is and the value of family.
Tip #3: Get help from the Universal Translator
Children (and some adults) often have problems communicating clearly. It may be hard to understand what is happening with the child because they cannot or will not articulate what they need. Or you may not be able to properly convey to the child what is in your heart. We need the Holy Spirit to be a universal translator so that we can understand each other. As parents we need godly wisdom to discern what is going on with our children. We need to know how to say the right things to touch the child or we may need a strategy to get that child to change his ways after everything else failed. This kind of understanding only comes from spending time in prayer and studying God’s Word.
Psalm 119:105 says,
“Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path”.
God will show us the way if we just seek Him and follow His lead.
If you have fallen as a parent, don’t give up. Your children need you and, believe it or not, you need them. You are the right person, in the right place at the right time for your child. There’s always an opportunity to do better and to be better – so don’t overthink it. Just decide to be better starting today. Be confident that you have what your child needs and that God will never leave or forsake you.
BY SHENELL SHEPARD