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Living Life After Loss

I remember so clearly that night I got a phone call.  The voice said to me, “I’m so sorry to tell you but your mother just passed.” I paused for a moment not knowing what to do or say.  Then all of a sudden a flood of emotion came over me and my body went numb.  My heart was racing and my hands begin to shake as my eyes filled with tears.  What I experienced was a heartbreak and pain that I just couldn’t explain.  Even when comforted by those closest to me, I was still disoriented and a little confused at times.  If you have ever experienced the loss of a loved one then you are very familiar with what I am talking about.   

Dealing with loss can be a grueling and stressful ordeal.   There is very little that anyone can do to avoid or prepare for the pain of losing a close relative or a special loved one.  The truth is, living, dying, pain and grief are all natural parts of the cycle of life.  There are many ways to deal with grief through counseling, prayer and spending time with family just to name a few.  I believe one of the best ways to deal with grief is having a solid foundation in Jesus Christ.  When I had to deal with the sudden death of my sister and then a few months later the death of my mother – if it had not been for the Lord on my side, I would have fainted.  Instead of falling out I kept my faith in Christ.   I often lean on this scripture for encouragement,

Psalms 94:1 “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”   

Through the power of God, I know there is life after loss.  God wants us to continue living our best lives, even when we have lost someone so close to us.   So, when you get hit with that flood of emotion don’t freak out, this is just a normal reaction to dealing with grief. When you lose someone that you love so dearly, it’s only natural to experience a range of emotions.  Some emotions will be good and some will be bad.   

Be encouraged that grief and pain won’t last forever.  No matter how devastating the pain of grieving is, it is only temporary and it will soon subside.  Grieving is a natural part of the healing process.  Try not to beat yourself up or start wallowing in self-pity, because it can easily get you off track.  Cast all your cares on the Lord and let Him carry you through this tough time. You have to “let go and let God”.  Remember, everyone grieves differently and so healing might take less time for some and longer for others. Don’t be dismayed, trust in God and He will in time heal your wounded heart.  In this process you will have good days and bad days.  The good days won’t be hard to navigate.  These are the times that you will reflect and smile about the joy you shared with your loved one.  The bad days are the days you need to get on your knees and phone a friend (Jesus).  Always remember Proverbs 3:5-6, 

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and He shall direct thy paths. 

Let God guide you through.  Know that God is always with you. He will never leave you or forsake you.  If He brought you to it, He will see you through it.  The fact that you are still here means He wants you to continue living your best life for Christ.  

BY BENNY SHEPARD