Often times, people wonder what it is like to be a parent of a child with special needs. Or they wonder what my life as a parent of a child with special needs entails. In the beginning, it was a struggle to put into words and paint a picture of what this world was like and how each day was full of surprises and wonders. It was not until I stumbled across this poem that describes this life well.
What I discovered was very much like what I discovered as a young adult; that what I thought I knew I did not even know. There was so much to learn, so much to take in. It was all very overwhelming in the beginning. I struggled internally and externally with this new and foreign land I was given. There were many days that I could not see the beauty this land had to offer. I spent many hours trying to figure out how to catch a flight out of this land and into the land I had, at one time, prepared to enter.
It was not until I stumbled across this powerful scripture. A scripture that I had seen many times before, recited many times before – even spoke many times before:
Romans 8:28 states, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
But something about seeing and reading this scripture at that moment in time made me realize I was in the land that I was supposed to be in.
In THAT moment, I started to realize that if I were not in this land, I would not love like I do. If I were not in this land, I would not have the compassion, passion, empathy, or care for others who enter into this land unexpectedly. I realized that though there are many rough days, it is ALL working together for my good. It is ALL to make me better for the purposes (some known and some still unknown) that God created me to carry out.
No one likes to be hit with any type of adversity. But if we change our perspective, we’ll realize that even the tough and bad things in life are here to create something good. We will no longer look to get out of the foreign land but learn how to embrace and cultivate the foreign land we’re in.
BY GENELL BOONE