Have you ever wanted to write a letter to yourself? Regretted something you said or a decision you made? Or maybe wanted to go back to the past and give yourself some sound advice hoping to somehow reverse the past? I think we’ve all been down these paths. We’ve all had some form of regret about something, desperately wishing we could reverse the past. Wishing we could get a do-over, all the while still holding on to it [regret]. Making mistakes or regretting something simply means that we’re human. And being human is a universal experience.
Although we can’t change the past, there is indeed a silver lining. God’s Word gives us the blueprint – and when followed, we will all have a life of fewer regrets. The more we are obedient, the less regrets we will experience. Now, you may ask, what happens if we don’t follow God’s blueprint? What if we fall off? Here’s the answer – because God loves us so much, He extends His grace and mercy to us. He gives us a path to freedom from our past missteps and restoration in Him.
Psalm 51:12 reminds us, “Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.”
This means that God promises His abiding joy to those who keep His commandments. It means only God could restore the joy lost from living with regret. It is far better to obey and follow God’s blueprint than to deliberately disobey.
So, what do you do if you’re living with regret? What do you do if you’ve made some missteps? How do you become free from those regretful feelings? First, repent and ask God for forgiveness and then forgive yourself. Second, take the lessons learned from your experiences, and the wisdom gained, and use it to live a more purposeful life. Remember everything works out for our good. Finally, know that God can still use you – He desires to restore us. He has plans for us.
So, when you find yourself focusing on things you regret, pray and ask God to transform your mind so that your past magnifies His powerful grace and mercy. Hold on to the fact that you are forgiven. Just like Peter, we can all be transformed.
2 Corinthians 5:17 reminds us, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”
Regret can silence your voice. It can consume your life. But with God, we are made free and are restored in Him. If we follow God’s blueprint we can live life with fewer regrets.
BY MERCEDES ALLSOP