We live our lives in stages. We often plan for and prepare for the different stages in a vacuum. We make plans, pray about it and then move forward expecting everything to work out as planned. Life does not work that way.
We understand that challenges will come, and we may experience loss and a shakeup of our plans. In our adult years, we envision our parents as they were when we left home; young, vibrant, and full of life. There comes a time when our parents will not be able to care for themselves. This may result in parents moving in with their children. This sounds simple enough, but when it happens, life as you know it changes.
Adjustments and compromise must be made on both sides. We often think about the impact on children, but there is also an impact on the parent. It’s not easy for parents who have lived independently for years to pick up and move in with their children and often times, grandchildren. You have just taken the first step in being a caregiver.
Being a caregiver often comes without warning because it was not in the plan you had for your life. After all, this is not what you prayed for. It was not on your list of goals. Sometimes we feel that the challenges we endure are unique to us. “No one is going through what I am going through” becomes your mantra.
The enemy will allow you to think like this to put you in a pity party. If the enemy can separate you and get you all alone, he will make you believe all these negative thoughts. When this season comes in life, know that God has a plan. Prayer has to be the first step. God will never place more on you than you can bear.
Romans 8:28 states,
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
When you are connected to a local church and fellowship with your sisters and brothers in Christ, you will see that you are not alone in your challenges. When you hear and meditate on the Word of God, you are strengthened in areas that will get you through your situation. When you are connected to the promises of God, you move from being a victim to being a victor. God takes your test and makes it your testimony.
As you accept this season in your life, God will settle you and use your experiences to reach others who are going through what you have been through. Caregivers are made every day, and these new caregivers need to see you to know they can make it. God has a plan for your life that is bigger than you. Connect to a local church, hear the Word of God, fellowship with believers, and reach others who will need your wisdom and life experiences.
BY LEENARD KENNEDY