Chapter 6 – Forgive Yourself

“If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” John 8:36

Forgiving yourself is crucial for reinvention. In order to move into a state where transformation can occur, you must release yourself to “move on”. Think about it, if God has forgiven you, shouldn’t you forgive yourself? Are you greater than God?

Because we are human there is a tendency in all of us to hold ourselves more accountable than we do others. And that’s alright to a certain degree – we do want to continue to improve and be serious concerning our own personal infractions and mistakes – the accountability is important in that aspect. However, most people go too far.

Perhaps you have been one who can justify forgiving others, even for heinous offenses, yet you find no justification for forgiving yourself for a lesser offense. Maybe you believe that forgiving yourself is not even a consideration because you think you must hold yourself in a state of constant remembrance, as a form of judgment so you won’t do it again. Possibly, subconsciously, you may believe there is a price, some form of life-long punishment that you must pay.

Whatever the case, not forgiving yourself, in its final state, is unproductive and a key element in blocking your reinvention. God sent His Son that we would be free – who are we to keep ourselves in bondage?

Forgiving yourself is presented as a “given” in the Bible. In order to embrace God’s mercy, grace and favor, you must release yourself to receive. You cannot be oppressed and walk in God’s freedom at the same time. There are principles regarding forgiveness throughout the Scriptures that can be applied.

For example, the Bible states that when God forgives us, He remembers our sins no more (Jeremiah 31:34). This does not mean that our all-knowing Father God forgets, but rather, because He forgives us, He chooses not to bring up our sin again. Forgiving yourself is not about totally erasing the memory of wrongdoing from your mind. Even David stated, after he had sinned,

“For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin is ever before me.” Psalm 51:3

But after he repented before God, he quickly moved on. Forgiving yourself is about not bringing the offense up in damaging ways. It is simply letting go of what you are holding against yourself so that you can move on in God.

If God has moved on, shouldn’t we do the same?


This is an excerpt from Chapter 6 of “Reinvent Yourself: 21 Practical Keys to Your Personal Spiritual Makeover”. Pick up a copy of Reinvent Yourself here!