Chapter 14 – Love You

The fact that the vast majority of people in the world care for their own needs is testament to the fact that people do have a decent element of care – even if it’s for self. The statement “love your neighbor as yourself” is essentially saying you should treat other people as well as you treat yourself. The opposite of this would be self-rejection and self-hatred.

The amount of bondage that results from self-rejection, self-hatred, and an unwillingness to believe in oneself is very significant. You can move on in every other area of your life but if this is not properly addressed – you cannot go but so far. People that don’t love themselves are not happy most of the time because they are constantly with someone that they dislike – themselves.

Self-rejection is when you can never accept yourself for who you are – constantly and quietly condemning and “beating up” every response, action and even signs of progress. Self-hatred deals with living in your body but hating the person who God made. It’s detesting your very existence – maybe considering yourself ugly, unintelligent, clumsy, etc. Depression and bitterness are the usual companions for these souls. The danger is that because of the range of serious emotions, the enemy can constantly bring forth thoughts of destruction and suicide.

Individuals who always see themselves as worthless or push to reach irrational goals just to feel good, fall into this category also. Low self-esteem is as much of a sin as theft or robbery – because they are robbing God of the “real” person that He created and kidnapping them while holding them in bondage.

It is time for reinvention. And maybe you don’t fit the whole resume list above but there are some signs of self-hatred or self-rejection – well let’s trust God for real deliverance!
First of all, you need to ask God’s forgiveness and start being thankful for who He made you! A greater you will begin to come forth through prayer and repentance.

Shut down all the negative language about yourself and do it quickly. You will find that if you have been doing it a long time – this won’t be easy. Practice, practice and practice again. Break the pattern through confrontation and consistency. You must break this harmful rehearsal of your past delusion and declare what God has said about you!

It may be necessary to verbally state some positive scriptural affirmations:

Deuteronomy 28:13

I am the head and not the tail.

Deuteronomy 28:3, 6

I am blessed in the city, blessed in the field, blessed coming in and blessed going out.

Deuteronomy 28:12

I am a lender and not a borrower.

Deuteronomy 28:13

I am above and not beneath.

Romans 8:37

I am more than a conqueror.

1 Peter 2:9

I am a member of a chosen generation.

1 Peter 2:9

I am part of a royal priesthood.

1 Peter 2:9

I am a citizen of God’s holy nation.

You need to convince your own mind that you are somebody in Christ!



This is an excerpt from Chapter 14 of “Reinvent Yourself: 21 Practical Keys to Your Personal Spiritual Makeover”. Pick up a copy of Reinvent Yourself here!